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I finally came around to read Amy Chua’s book

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  1. Garden

    Garden Thread Starter Much ado about nothing

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    “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother” (2011)

    This is her opening passage:

    “ A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereo-typically successful kids.
    They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math whizzes and music prodigies,
    what it’s like inside the family, and whether they could do it too.

    Well, I can tell them, because I’ve done it.
    Here are some things my daughters, Sophia and Louisa, were never allowed to do:

    • attend a sleepover
    • have a playdate
    • be in a school play
    • complain about not being in a school play
    • watch TV or play computer games
    • choose their own extracurricular activities
    • get any grade less than an A
    • not be the #1 student in every subject except gym and drama
    • play any instrument other than the piano or violin
    • not play the piano or violin. “


    Should I be impressed or depressed now?

    Kind regards,
    Heiko
     
  2. Rastus

    Rastus Well-Known Member

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    It looks like there is no room for fun, playing or independence in that home.

    Not allowed "not be the #1 student in every subject except gym and drama"
    What would they do if they only got number 2? Shoot the child? And as there can only be 1 number one in each class, what about the other "failures" in the class who didn't get number one? Did their parents disown them or shoot them? Bizarre.

    Not allowed to "play any instrument other than the piano or violin"
    So success is only measurable in these 2 instruments? Again, bizarre.

    What's a playdate?
     
  3. chuachinsoon

    chuachinsoon Well-Known Member

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    The violin and piano are considered hi-so instruments.

    I can understand a bit. When I was 12, I scored 5 As in the national grade 6 examinations. My mom asked me why I got only 5As. I was like, "Mom, there were only 5 subjects". I started to give up trying to please my parents after that.
     
  4. Farang_Ba

    Farang_Ba Active Member

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    Are there any nude photos of the tiger mom included in the book? ;-)
     
  5. bahn_farang

    bahn_farang Well-Known Member

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    yes this one
     

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  6. ThaiJohn

    ThaiJohn New Member

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    That's what kids have to do to see friends out of school. Nothing spontaneous. A time and day are set for them to meet up and play.
     
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    ramses Well-Known Member

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    I suppose it all boils down to what you want your legacy to to be. Any parent who provides a loving home for their child(ren) and makes sure all the child's needs are being met should be applauded. If that loving environment is also filled with structure, and discipline, so be it. There is nothing to be apologetic about. Certainly different families and different cultures have different values.
     
  8. chuachinsoon

    chuachinsoon Well-Known Member

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    I agree, 100%

    Yes. But most tend to veer towards the 2 ends of a spectrum. Too much love and no discipline, or too much discipline. In quite a lot of Chinese families, play time is given as a reward for completed work or good results. I don't think that's a good idea.
     

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